Sometimes A woman is an island Steadfast amid the violence Of salt water and storm cloud Eyes ever focused Where the sky caresses the sea Kissed all over by the ebb and flow of waves Dancing with moontides Volcanic at times Worn and weathered and wiser As beautiful at sunrise as sunset As much a force as nature herself
I love watching the women with fire in their veins The girls with Punky Brewster profiles They enter with energy so big the room feels small Laughs that ring out above the rest - distinctive and full bellied They refuse to be shamed by the PTA moms Not allowing their messy edges to take away from their contributions They embody the revolutionary girl that Nikita Gill wrote rules for Standing up for themselves and others Accepting no excuses for bad behavior They are often truth tellers slicing through mass delusions Magic makers manifesting dreams into reality Only ever competing with themselves Chin high and eyes sharp They are goddess and girl Witch and woman Scorching or blessing the ground they walk In equal measure Giving no fucks and taking no shit As they say "yes, and" or "hell, no" Fierce and joyous and unapologetically free
Thunder rattles behind her ribs Lightening arcs from her tongue She is storm clouds Bringing steady rain to parched earth Raging winds to clear the way She is elemental Wild and raw and rare Her smile crepuscular Her love blisteringly radiant I live to study her meteorology
I am the fourth daughter to do it alone Independence and survival are in my DNA Only child to a single mother Only granddaughter amongst the cousins Only kid on my block I have lived in comfortable aloneness most of my life Do not believe I do not get lonely I know how to remedy loneliness Trusted family Tribe Are always a keystroke or "hello" away
I'd prefer to have a partner To help me raise and support my children But not at the cost of my independence My independence is foundational in my peace If I cannot retain my independent spirit I cannot sustain my sense of self I need a partner who walks alongside me Who understands that I need to run in my wildness Who does not try to domesticate me Into something less than myself
Aloneness is not absence or lack It is the space where I meet myself It is the door to my Narnia The place where unfettered dreams thrive Where words waltz in ballgowns and tails Where stories bloom from rich soil Where I sit in conversation with discomfort Where I sit in conversation with my gods It is the garden of my delights And it is as precious to me as air
How do I manage alone you ask I understand that I'm never really alone I'm as alone as I choose to be I'm helped as much as I choose to ask for it It is not as perfect or simple as these stanzas may imply But the essence of my truth is here Simplified Distilled into a comprehensible version Of my vast and complex reality A demonstration of shifting perspective Being alone carries so much oppressive connotation I choose to experience it as a necessary liberation Allowing me to navigate life by my own north star Inspiring me to never lose sight of myself again
This is hard shit. That sometimes grabbing that fact by the throat and screaming in its face is necessary from time to time. Sometimes sitting in the shadow of that truth is required when our spirits are tired and our hearts so broken. And when we're done, we rest. We breathe. And we rise and fight some more. Because we're mothers.
Women! Do not center your lives around men Pleasing Appeasing We are not the prey for their predator Though some argue nature made it so
We are Medusa's progeny Serving oleander sweet tea And Aqua Tofana cocktails We carry the legacies of Lilith Hecate and the Morrigan Skywoman and Diana of the Hunt In our bones
We are born with cunning woven into our shadows Placed there by the midwives and wise-women Kitchen witches and herbalists Shaman and priestesses Who came before us
We have our own form of politics Whispered around washing wells and sewing circles Book clubs and coffee tables We don our poison rings and hat pins Let them think our docility safe While we keenly observe and note and remember
It is time to end the war waged upon our bodies The raping of our spirit The subjugation of our gender We are the gateway of life We break ourselves open through blood and pain To do the Goddess's work of creation
Too long have we allowed the world to think us Weak Helpless Foolish Simple Incapable We must remind the world of our strength
Boudicca was beaten and her daughters raped And in her rage she waged war against Rome Joan d'Arc stood against the English and the Church A God-touched, heretic, peasant child whose heart would not burn Harriet Tubman survived the travesties of slavery Another God-touched woman who delivered 70 other souls to freedom And we know there are so many more like them
Though we may not find our names etched in history We are no less powerful than those who are Our lives are OUR CHOICE We are not chattel nor trophies We are creation gifted autonomy It is our divine right to wield our lives as we see fit
Let them vilify us as Succubi Mad women Uppity bitches And cunts
We know we are Goddesses Priestesses Witches And warriors
We are exhausted We are fed up We are wrathful The Divine Feminine rises The world is set ablaze around us But we are not tied to the pyre We choose to look the world dead in the eye And dance while it burns
Birthing a new world is painful Shifting a paradigm is tectonic
Daughters, We do not just choose The Bear We are The Bear We are the Wild Mother We are gifted with the power of creation We are skilled in navigating grief We are aligned with the cycles of life
Daughters, We are the builders of community We are the storytellers We are the lore keepers We are the heart and the hearth We are the fire keepers We are the fire